If someone doesn't reply to my challenge request, I simply assume they're not interested and I move on. While I appreciate a "no thanks" message, I don't get butt-hurt if I don't get one. Life is too short for me to worry about the small stuff.
You have a point. However, I'll be honest; when I get messages from people who quite obviously haven't bothered to read even the first sentence of my profile, I see no point in messaging back. I'm open to being persuaded otherwise, though.
Men who are interested in men grow up with so much puritanical oppression and shamming that they struggle to have the ability to respond in a healthy, non-toxic way to those requesting a match that they are not interested in for as many reasons as there are men. So, they run from that "difficult" conversation by ghosting or simply not responding, recreating MORE shame in the community. Ghosting and non-responsiveness is cruel and creates harm unnecessarily. One man in his profile said, "If I don't respond that means I am not interested, so let's just be kind to each other." This is really him asking other's to be kind to him while he is being unconsciously cruel to others.
The answer is simple. "Hey! Thanks for reaching out. Having looked at your profile I don't feel like we are compatible enough to meet, but I wish you luck and happy hunting!"
It is honest without pointing out the specific reasons they are not interested which might cause harm. It is also gentle and caring. We wrestlers are a specific breed. We need to strengthen and build our community so it grows, instead of so many men turning away from us with the pain of rejection. Our various cultures have rejected all of us our entire lives. Let's not reject each other in thoughtless, unnecessarily cruel ways.
I believe you are right in some areas but don't agree with certain points as well.
I personally do not care for ghosting culture either. Yes, it's usually nicer to just tell someone "I appreciate it, but I'm not really interested" instead of leaving them on read. You are right that it doesn't take that much effort to do so at all, but some guys also just need to learn to take hints, too.
People are always assuming folks are doing this to be malicious or spiteful but in most cases they just don't believe they owe someone a response, which is true. Is it courteous to do so? Yes, but they should also not be expected to do it just cause the other party feels as if they should. That's like doing a good deed and automatically expecting a reward, but then getting upset you didn't get one. Everyone is always expecting something out of someone these days no matter what or how small it is. Sometimes it can also be as simple as them just trying to avoid confrontation as well, because believe it or not there's also a lot of people who do NOT take rejection well.
Some can and will lash out at a moments notice no matter how politely you try to word things.
Does that put them in the right for ghosting? Eh, likely not, but people shouldn't take it as a punch to the gut either. I know it sucks, and I had it happen to me as well a few times, but I simply move on. By the end of the day it's out of my control and shouldn't just expect it even though I feel a response is better and far nicer to do.
As for the profile bit, it sounds pretty cut and dry to me. At least he's got an explanation on his profile instead of leaving someone to wonder if they did or said anything wrong if he don't respond. There's definitely way more harshly worded stuff out there that I've seen on other people's profiles in regards to that sort of thing.
Either way, yeah ghosting sucks and I do see where you're coming from. A response is better than nothing, but we also shouldn't expect to always get one either.
BoxingJobber4U (0)
4/16/2026 2:01 AMThis was a very interesting topic
We need more discussions on this
We ALL would like a response!!
One way or the other
Just saying 😁
Antony grant 2 (12)
4/15/2026 9:26 PMDepends usually I’ll tell them I’m not interested but if it’s somebody who just obviously didn’t read my bio than I’ll never respond to it
TobyCarter (154 )
4/14/2026 7:55 AMIf someone doesn't reply to my challenge request, I simply assume they're not interested and I move on. While I appreciate a "no thanks" message, I don't get butt-hurt if I don't get one. Life is too short for me to worry about the small stuff.
Profan58 (11)
4/14/2026 1:40 AMI would love to get just a “no thanks”! Not responding at all sucks!
Dr jekyll and mr hyde (33 )
4/13/2026 5:45 PMjust say thanks for the interest but Its not for me cheers wrestler happy hunting
PA Rex (17)
4/13/2026 11:43 AMWhen big, big guys ask for a match I say thanks but I have weight limits for opponents that I follow.
Sibeasterus (12)
4/13/2026 3:55 PM(In reply to this)
Light guys too))) When 50kg boys ask me to wrestle with them, I really do not know what to answer
Roleplayer58 (0)
4/15/2026 11:15 PM(In reply to this)
Send them to me! 😛
Gentlemanfighter007 (1 )
4/12/2026 2:16 PMJust say we have different interests but thanks for reaching out. Pretty simple really
bristolwrestler (8)
4/12/2026 10:39 AMYou have a point. However, I'll be honest; when I get messages from people who quite obviously haven't bothered to read even the first sentence of my profile, I see no point in messaging back. I'm open to being persuaded otherwise, though.
MuslWrsl (5)
4/11/2026 8:55 PMMen who are interested in men grow up with so much puritanical oppression and shamming that they struggle to have the ability to respond in a healthy, non-toxic way to those requesting a match that they are not interested in for as many reasons as there are men. So, they run from that "difficult" conversation by ghosting or simply not responding, recreating MORE shame in the community. Ghosting and non-responsiveness is cruel and creates harm unnecessarily. One man in his profile said, "If I don't respond that means I am not interested, so let's just be kind to each other." This is really him asking other's to be kind to him while he is being unconsciously cruel to others.
The answer is simple. "Hey! Thanks for reaching out. Having looked at your profile I don't feel like we are compatible enough to meet, but I wish you luck and happy hunting!"
It is honest without pointing out the specific reasons they are not interested which might cause harm. It is also gentle and caring. We wrestlers are a specific breed. We need to strengthen and build our community so it grows, instead of so many men turning away from us with the pain of rejection. Our various cultures have rejected all of us our entire lives. Let's not reject each other in thoughtless, unnecessarily cruel ways.
Thanks for listening with open hearts.
westolyguy (4)
4/16/2026 2:48 AM(In reply to this)
This is an awesome and genuine response. I wish more men here would read this and follow your advice.
wrestleuCa4Fun (36)
4/14/2026 8:02 AM(In reply to this)
Great response MusclWrsl
Wrestltex (0)
4/11/2026 11:00 PM(In reply to this)
I believe you are right in some areas but don't agree with certain points as well.
I personally do not care for ghosting culture either. Yes, it's usually nicer to just tell someone "I appreciate it, but I'm not really interested" instead of leaving them on read. You are right that it doesn't take that much effort to do so at all, but some guys also just need to learn to take hints, too.
People are always assuming folks are doing this to be malicious or spiteful but in most cases they just don't believe they owe someone a response, which is true. Is it courteous to do so? Yes, but they should also not be expected to do it just cause the other party feels as if they should. That's like doing a good deed and automatically expecting a reward, but then getting upset you didn't get one. Everyone is always expecting something out of someone these days no matter what or how small it is. Sometimes it can also be as simple as them just trying to avoid confrontation as well, because believe it or not there's also a lot of people who do NOT take rejection well.
Some can and will lash out at a moments notice no matter how politely you try to word things.
Does that put them in the right for ghosting? Eh, likely not, but people shouldn't take it as a punch to the gut either. I know it sucks, and I had it happen to me as well a few times, but I simply move on. By the end of the day it's out of my control and shouldn't just expect it even though I feel a response is better and far nicer to do.
As for the profile bit, it sounds pretty cut and dry to me. At least he's got an explanation on his profile instead of leaving someone to wonder if they did or said anything wrong if he don't respond. There's definitely way more harshly worded stuff out there that I've seen on other people's profiles in regards to that sort of thing.
Either way, yeah ghosting sucks and I do see where you're coming from. A response is better than nothing, but we also shouldn't expect to always get one either.