TobyCarter

Stats

Member since 11.4 years
Age 55
Height 5'7" (170 cm)
Weight 180 lbs (82 kg)
Gender Male
Orientation Gay
Looking for Male
Gear Singlets, gi, no-gi, shorts, or no gear.
Languages spoken English
Last login today
Last update 4/24/2026
Favorite Hold Grapevine
BJJ Belt White
Skill Level Beginner+
Available to Host Weekdays, Some Evenings
What is my name? Toby
What is my quest? To seek the Holy Grail
What is my favorite color? Blue. No, yellow.
The hardest thing for me to do in a match? Get a takedown

Location

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  1. USA - Florida, Osceola County
    Home
  2. Canada - Ontario, Toronto
    (I'm here between 7/22/2026 and 7/27/2026)
    WrestleFest Visitor
  3. USA - Maryland, Glen Burnie
    (I'm here between 8/09/2026 and 8/15/2026)
    Visiting for the Week - Can Host
  4. USA - Washington D.C., Ward 2
    (I'm here between 8/15/2026 and 8/18/2026)
    Visiting - Can Host

I am willing to travel 200 miles
I am willing to host. (Bed and Breakfast)

Events

  1. WRESTLEFEST TORONTO 2026 7/23/2026Canada - Ontario, Toronto, Golden Horseshoe, Ontario, Canada Canada - Ontario
  2. Wrestlefest Chicago October 2-4 2026 10/02/2026USA - Illinois, Chicago USA - Illinois
  3. Wrestlefest NYC 2027 2/12/2027USA - New York, Madison Square Garden, 4, Pennsylvania Plaza, Chelsea District, Manhattan Community Board 5, Manhattan, New York County, New York, 10001, United State USA - New York

Past opponents

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Interests

Olympic / Greco-Roman Olympic / Greco-Roman
Submission Submission

Match structure: Even match Give and take Play wrestling Practicing techniques Tag team / group fights Two on one Workout partner Not interested in cyber Looking for coach

Specific wrestling styles: Brazilian ju-jitsu Folkstyle Going to matches Pool wrestling Mud/oil wrestling

Miscellaneous interests: Massage I have access to mats Friendship Relationship

Fetishes: Jackoff Wrestling gear

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Introduction

Even after decades of on-and-off wrestling, I still consider myself a beginner (maybe an advanced beginner). I will work for the pin or submission, but I prioritize a good, sweaty, and fun match over winning.

WHAT I LIKE IN A MATCH (so please don't ask me in a message - it's all right here!):

Important things to me:
-We both have a good experience.
-Neither of us gets hurt.
-We respect each other's boundaries.
-We adjust our wrestling to make the bout somewhat even if one of us is far more skilled. I'm not into totally squashing or being totally squashed (some humiliation is fine though!).

I tend to favor submission wrestling/jiu-jitsu (gi or no-gi), but I also like freestyle/folkstyle and oil matches or a combination of the above! No hard strikes (kicking or punching). If you know what you're doing (like *really* know what you're doing) applying a blood choke, I'm happy to let you take me out that way (and please bring me back!).

I can host at my home (south of the Disney World area) with 8' x 10' gymnastic mats (better than puzzle mats but not as good as wrestling mats) on weekdays and some weekends. I'm also happy to come to you or meet in between.

Gear preferences are singlets or shorts for me (at least to start), and I like you to wear whatever makes you most comfortable. I have spare, clean singlets in all sizes to loan out if you want to try one.

I respect all limits and enjoy an erotic element when there's mutual chemistry. I can also turn that part off if you don't want that in a match.

I prefer guys up to my age and weight (though I'll wrestle up to about 200#), but that isn't set in stone - just a trend.

Beginners are welcomed and encouraged. I'm not formally trained, but I'm happy to share what I know or let you work through a move while I adjust my defense/resistance from a little to a lot to help you build your game.

I started Brazilian jiu-jitsu (BJJ) training in August 2024 at the age of 53. I'm a slow-learner, but I love it and I'm just gonna keep doing it until I (hopefully) get better and more confident. Don't let my 4 stripes scare you - they are time and attendance stripes, not skill-based!

I rarely meet with someone who doesn't share a face pic before a match. I understand discretion - I was in the military during Don't Ask Don't Tell. But it's more of a security thing with me. I need to know who the police should be looking for if I go missing. Sure, it's never happened, but... I may still meet without a picture, but that will depend on recommendations on your profile and reference checks.

If I message or send a challenge and I’m just not your type, it’s okay to block me. I’ll get the message and move on. But if you’re a classy guy, a short “No thanks” scores good karma points!

Let's roll!

FUTURE EVENTS PLANNED:
WrestleFest Canada - July 2026 (You'll find me mostly at wrestling classes and open mats, and open to private matches)

CURRENT TRAINING:
Jiu-Jitsu (White Belt since 2024)

PAST EVENTS ATTENDED:
WrestleFest NYC - February 2026
WrestleFest Canada - July 2025
WrestleFest NYC - February 2025
GrapplePit Toronto - September 2024
GrapplePit Toronto - July 2024
WrestleFest Canada - July 2024
Einsteiger Wrestling Camp (Berlin DE) - May 2024
WrestleFest NYC - February 2024
Hillside Wrestling Weekend x3 (May it rest in peace - it was an amazing experience)

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