hephaestion2014's blog

You're My Favourite

Just to say,
As it is world poetry day,
I'll keep it short,
I'll keep it sweet,
But here's a little poetic treat
Just to confirm
with nae much bother
You are my favourite
big ole jobber.

#happyworldpoetryday

💪😜

Heard from a previous opponent who I missed, and inspired the previous blog.

He asked me to pass on a few words.

" We all have different reasons for wrestling and indeed for stopping. No offence is ever meant by someone stopping being in your opponent list, it's just a natural outcome of them making a decision.

I have tried to leave the site a couple of times and been persuaded not to by someone at the last minute.

That is the reason there were no goodbyes this time. Just a harsh deletion was the way to do it.

I'm really gonna miss you guys.

I had masses of fun and battles with people from around the UK and even the world while being on MF so I owe a massive thank you to each and everyone of my past opponents.

I won't mention all 90 opponents (due to my age I can't remember every name anyway) .

To name a few:

Ed - London the man with Speedos in his briefcase!
Neil - my first opponent
Craig - Oz 😁
Stephen - Scotland but English
Dan - Norway
Dan - upt' North
Jon - shandy land
John - 1953
John - Young Scot
Simon - pie eater
Gary - persistent one
Dave - David
Alec - BJJ God
Gareth - my last opponent

I WILL miss wrestling so will be looking to join a club in the new year and may even attend the occasional Manchester meet. Hopefully some of you may be there!

The friendships we made are something I will always hold dear even if contact since I left MF is limited.

Remember nothing is ever as black and white as we think, dependent on your stand point it is simply another shade of grey.

Have a great Christmas and a brilliant 2019.

All the best
Vanman

And I personally wish him all the best, and understand his going and thank him for the battles.

I genuinely think it was because he was scared I'd beat him the next time. Kidding!

I'll raise a half a shandy to you!

Man. It feels like Thanos has snapped his fingers as another one drops off my favourites and past opponent list.

Ut's always sad when a profile of a former opponent vanishes.

Not because of the number thing ... It's just that I've always enjoyed the company of the people I've wrestled. Both on and off the mats. The random chats. The banter messages or even just checking in with each other if either has been silent.

When they've gone. That's kind of it. Profile deleted. End of story. There's plenty of good reasons to go. Life changes and moves on. It's just saying goodbye to people suck.

I'm guessing they'll be back on one day. Sending them all the best thoughts till they come back.

"So you straight or gay?"

Well, I tend to get fed up of this question. Not because of the fact that it's a question that forces us to reduce our identity down to one thing, but also because of the assumption about wrestling behind it.

If you answer straight, automatically both parties know that the wrestling is going to be just wrestling. No funny business. But if you answer gay, there's an assumption you might be up for the more erotic style.

Which is a huge assumption and one that isn't really all that correct. I have wrestled numerous guys who identify as gay that haven't been looking for the erotic part, because they are either in a relationship etc, or more importantly because they just enjoy wrestling for the male bonding or serious about wrestling as just a sporting activity.

"So you like Rugby? You straight or gay?"
If the guy answers he is gay, you are not going to assume mid tackle, he's going to pull down your rugby shorts and start to grope you in the middle of the match. Well, not outside of porn. The same with tennis, or soccer or long distance running.

I wish people would ask instead, "you looking for erotic or non erotic wrestling?"

It's more precise, and an accurate way to discover what both guys are really looking for, and not assuming that a shared sexuality means a shared universal goal in wrestling.

But be honest in your answer, if you say you don't want to do erotic, don't go changing your answer halfway through..

When you look at your lovely hotel room with all the mod cons and comfy bed and great shower but are grumpy as too small to wrestle in ;)