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Sorry that happened.
I feel you bro.
I can also attest to this. It’s definitely not hard to politely say not interested.

I think there is a limit on blocks though.. So some that do it with a lot of guys and are very picky and block based on who they prefer would definitely have to stop at some point. But it’s ridiculous smh.

But you already know I would wrestle with you anyday. 😉 💪🏾
Hope all is well bro.

Thanks brother. Appreciate you Always. 😊

I couldn't agree with you more!
I really don't understand people blocking for no apparent reason
But l guess to each his own
But believe me
Black Ops
When I say that YOU'RE
point is more than
Valid!!!!!!!!
Keep up the good content!

For me I was blocked and don’t even know why. Joelwrestler blocked me and got his friends to do so too. I’ve been part of this community 20 years and never blocked. I guess with the expansion of the community it’s bound to happen. Just know it can happen for no reason, so don’t feel bad just move forward as there are hundreds of guys to wrestle 💪🏻👍

Most Definitely brother. 😊

I'd wrestle you in a heartbeat, for the record.

Thank you brother. Appreciate the Kind words. 😊

I’d wrestle you any time too. But I don’t think that was the issue in my case; he was afraid of a smaller man whooping his ass 😉💪🏻

And you blocked me. Remember?

PS you’re looking soooo fine man 🥵👌

Unfortunately there are some very messed up people on these apps and their selfish and thoughtless behaviour spoils the experience for everyone else. 😕

AGREED BROTHER! 💯 PERCENT!!

I agree. So easy to say a polite "no thank you" and move on. Blocking should not normally be necessary.

Totally agree with you. Why the need to block. Why not just say you are not interested

Not so good, either, when someone fails to turn up for an arranged meeting, offering no explanation or apology but just blocking you when you ask, mildly, what happened. Bitter? Me?

Bro, it's their loss. We'd all wrestle you any day

Bro, it's their loss. You already know, as soon as im in your area im hunting you down 💪

Don't take a block personally. For every block you experience there are a good 10 guys eager to engage. Love to chat with you sometime.

Correct! It was annoying, disappointing ... but NOT the end of the world. And yes, I agree: SO many nice, polite, tolerant, thoughtful, kind, interesting people here on MF! And most will NOT block you arbitrarily if you don't happen to match up to their own high standards.

I gotcha. I have had guys that I don't even know block me and I don't know why. You can't find out who he is in case you want to return the favor. There was another site I once belonged to that let you know who blocked you but you just couldn't contact them.

BUT check this out
Last month I actually got a
"Challenge" from a MeetFighters member AND then he blocked me
Yes you heard it right!
A MeetFighters member
"Challenged" me AND then "Blocked" me all at the same time 😄
Go figure

Said it before and I'll say it again... It's the gay apps factor!
On your Grindr, Scruff hook up apps it's common practise to block anyone you don't like the look of, without any interaction at all.
There are only a limited number of profiles shown for free on the apps, so by blocking 6 they don't like they get to see 6 more.

Since this site also became an app it has attracted those who think its another Grindr, and we have inherited their attitudes and selfish ways into what was once a far more supportive community.

No idea what Scruff is and how Grindr works. It sounds as if we're ALL rather better off here on MF.

Agree 100%. Many them are up front about it too, eg "just checking this app to see what it's about" and they have zero intention of meeting, fighting or remotely engaging. The profiles are then deleted pretty quickly too.

Well said!!!

To quote Bette Midler: Fuck'em if they can't take a joke. Blocking just means they don't have a mother to run to. I can't think of a reason why I would block anyone. One time I sent a message to an older guy boxer like myself just to say hey, nice profile. He blocked me after replying "I only like young men". I never said I was interested in fighting him. I try to reply to everyone I hear from. But, there are some on here that don't have a sense of humor, and take themselves too seriously. Being blocked can be a good omen and a badge of honor! 😇

I had a guy recently ask if I was interested in carrying him on my back. I said “sorry that’s just not my thing. “ and he blocked me. I actually busted out laughing when he did. 😂
Also, he lived about 4000 miles away so… yeah, weird.

Why the hell would one need to block someone that is not interested? It's not like they will stalk you after they just said, I'm not interested. How dumb! Perhaps in their deluded minds they think they are punishing you for not being interested. 🤔Good luck with that!

/blocked. *kidding*

yes i agree or they do not respone with either a yes or no

Sorry to hear that happens to you. I would be honored if I was approached the chance to wrestle you bro 💪🏾

Same here brother. 😊

The ones that don’t reply back i block

People have their own reason for blocking. Don't take it personally.

Not worth getting heated up about, it is a free world after all. Anyway, being blocked doesn’t bother me. They are usually hypersensitive, messed up and more often than not, not worth knowing

Very True most of the Time brother. Very True indeed. 👍🏾 😊

I had a profile recently block me - after he got mad that I removed a recent recommendation he hounded me for after a recent wrestle. He first sent two ugly messages and then blocked me - haha … a guy who wrestles a lot on the site … but the wrestle was not of interest to me, his offered host wrestling site in a 1920 slum row house 3rd floor attic , 7x7 space, was the worst wrestling space I have ever wrestled … i should have walked out after seeing the filth and the rancid smell of mold and other antigens in his poor residence …. But i was trying to be nice and give the guy a chance so i stayed and gave the wrestle a go … I was super kind to this guy, bought him breakfast, bought him some food, took him to Costco so he could get great values on some food items … he wanted more than a wrestle and the person has an UNambitious work ethic and lifestyle … just no match to my hard working achieving lifestyle … when I removed the recommendation i gave him , he blocked me … which in his case was fine … however, it was his embellishment of himself and others that led to my decision … he was not the type or quality of person I want to hang with or be associated with.

Sounds grim!

So blocking can be an admission of guilt … as in the above case … besides the more common reason of harassment or ugly messages.

Amen, man. That's just plain rude and we all need to be better than that. Thanks for bringing up this point.

I'd hazard a guess these "Blockers" are the same people giving anonymous thumbs down to people's Blogs they really need to get a life!

I'd say it depends, mate.

I used to block people when being ghosted, talked down or completely ignored by them because it's better for me when I don't see people, who aren't interested in me anyways. I think in this case it's fair to do so. Especially if you'd be highly interested in them, it's better for mental health to simply not see their profiles again. Just my opinion. In general try to see it this way: Blocks are quite limited if you aren't paying, so if they have a free profile and care enough about you to block you, you've already won in some way, lol. Also it's positive to be blocked because you simply won't have to see a profile again that wouldn't be interested in you anyways. So not only are they taking up their own block space, they also save you from ever wasting your time writing them again. It's actually a win/win situation for both but especially the blocked person.

I'd personally never give thumbs down to any Blogs, but I'd say that it's fair to disagree on a topic.

Thank you!! I kinda had a similar perspective but didn’t know how to word it without pissing off the people who are more emotionally effected by getting blocked.

I get blocked sometimes and I’m glad overall. Saves time. I don’t have super big emotions about it, there’s sooooo many amazing guys on here so just move forward!

I tend to “mute” conversations rather than block profiles. It’s kinder but if I’m not interested in the guy, and we don’t live near each other, I have better things to do with my day than have meaningless chats for their benefit.

But I too didn’t wanna give this a thumbs down because I also agree with the OP. :)

This !!!! I recently asked to join wrestlefest in Birmingham, I politely asked to join and then it was declined so I politely contacted the person who run it and asked if they could explain why I had been turned down. They saw the message and didn't reply and then blocked me. I'm one of possibly seven women in the UK who are into play fighting and I can't even access festivals you know it can be really off putting. On the other hand we have men who are complaining there aren't enough women involved well can you blame us?

I can understand people preferring a non-mixed (m/f) event ... but I think you deserved a polite response at the very least - and definitely not a block.

Yeah I’ve had two guys who were interested in meeting up, and then blocked me out of nowhere. I said nothing that could’ve pissed them off, and we had already verified and exchanged pics and all that stuff. I’d expect better than that here vs somewhere like Grindr for example.

One did it after I had to reschedule bc I was literally sick but I told him I was still interested, and the other one had actually come to my place already before getting an emergency work call (that sounded legit) he had to leave for. And the weirder part is he was super apologetic about it and kept saying he was still interested in re-scheduling, and I said yeah, let me know. Then like a month later, he blocked me out of nowhere right after I had checked out a new pic he uploaded on his profile. That guy did mention he had a bf though who he was a little vague on whether or not was ok with him doing the wresting fetish here (we had agreed to no sex though), so don’t know if that was part of it. Doesn’t seem like he deleted his profile though, or I’m sure it wouldn’t say blocked for me.

People are so odd!

I wish a month would pass without someone going so thin skinned that they can't take the small inconvenience of being blocked without crying crocodile tears in all caps.

And you call yourself a fighter?

I have a right to voice my opinion and with all due Respect if you don't like it, don't comment, I don't need negative vibes posted on this Blog. Smdh

Well said
Black Ops!!!
The nerve

"Just politely say I'm not interested" almost always ends poorly with more questions of "why don't you like me (pathetic)" , bitchiness, or lack of respect for my preferences.

It's easier to not respond and only engage with people you want to engage with. I love this community, but I get to choose how to interact with it (and so do you)!

I definitely agree with some of your points brother. But there's absolutely nothing Wrong with politely saying you're not interested and moving on, I never take offense to that, on the other hand saying that Can go Wrong at times, I told this one Guy from Germany I wasn't interested very politely and he Called me the N word. Smh

That's sad. Even in Europe, we're seemingly despised. I know not everyone over there is like that. I guess he was a bit miffed lolol. N word is known worldwide.

Black Ops
You have handled this topic with consideration and understanding
You are an amazing example of how to voice your opinion with respect and open mindedness!

To be honest, especially after some recent experiences I've had here and on other sites my views on blocking have evolved in some ways. I don't do it often but politely telling people no doesn't always work and people bring their own BS into conversations that you try to deal with but it can still be very problematic. Sometimes it's politics gratuitously coming into the conversation, some times it's fantasy imposition (they state what they want, you say you're not into that and try to find common ground but they keep steering the conversation to what they want), sometimes you say no and people blow up on you. When you get blocked, as I have been before several times, it always feels like you did nothing wrong but that doesn't mean that's the case. It's in our nature to protect our own feelings and egos and we may not be aware of how we are coming off to others, we are the protagonists in our own stories after all. While there are certainly trolls on here and people who come by just to harass and block they aren't in the majority so if it's happening to you a lot it may be a reason to reflect on those conversations and see if there is something you can do to modify your approach in case maybe you're coming on too strong, use a lot of extreme language to paint themselves as super tough (a lot of people like to say they need to get their aggression out and to me that voices a toxic experience with someone who may not be safe to roll with).

I'm not trying to invalidate you, your views or experiences at all, that's not the point here, but the trolls aren't going to read your post, it isn't going to resonate with them and they will continue to do what they do. You can't control the behavior of others but you can reflect on your own and if you can pinpoint something that you may be doing that may be turning people off and you can address it, hopefully that will help you get more matches and at the end of the day that's what we're all looking for. I hope this helps